Your Values Determine Your Destiny

In daily life, before you take any action, your brain runs through a series of possible scenarios. It then puts them through a filter that asks: of all the things I could do, which one should I do?

That filtering process is governed by your Values.

For example: your teacher makes a surprise announcement that there will be test in class tomorrow. Do you:

  • Clear out time on your evening schedule to cram for it?
  • Say, “Life’s too short to panic over a pop-quiz” and decide to wing it?
  • Or, do you make plans to cheat off of your smart friend who sits next to you?

Those are all potential options. Which one you pick is determined by your guiding Values.

These Values are extremely powerful, as they govern every choice you make in life, whether you’re conscious of it or not.

What determines your Values? Largely, it’s the experiences and influences of your early childhood. While your values will still evolve somewhat throughout your life, what makes you who you are at your “core” is pretty much set by the time you reach high school.

So, understanding your guiding Values is critical to finding happiness and fulfillment in life. Decisions made in alignment with your Values just feel “right” in both your mind and gut. Not only have the worst decisions you’ve made like been in conflict with your values, but they probably felt wrong at the time you made them. That was your inner self trying to warn you.

As Gandhi famously said, “Your Values become your destiny”. So if you care about your destiny, which every sane person should, make sure you have a clear understanding of the Values guiding you towards it.

Once you’ve identified them, you can embrace them. Use them as a dependable litmus test for any important decision you’re facing: Which of these choices is best aligned with my core Values?

Being able to answer this with clarity and confidence will dramatically increase you’re odds of making the right life choice.

Ok, so knowing your Guiding Values sounds pretty important. How do you go about finding what they are?

After all, there’s a zillion out there, right? How are you supposed to identify the ones that uniquely fit you?

Don’t worry. The exercises in Stage 1 of the The Better Path make it easy. Just follow them in the steps prescribed.

Your Passions Make Life Worth Living

Your Passions are the things that add joy and zest to your life. It’s often said that they’re what make life worth living.

As you look to the future, you want to ask yourself: How can I arrange my life so that I’m engaging with my Passions as much as possible?

Doing so will ensure life is enjoyable, interesting and fulfilling. And if you’re wise and fortunate enough to align your career around your Passions, you’re much more likely to be successful, too. Waking up in the morning to do what excites you is the ultimate life “win”.

Similar to your Values, Passions are unique to the individual. There is likely no one else in all the world with the exact same combination of likes and interests as you.

As such, be painfully honest with yourself as you follow the exercises in Stage 1 of The Better Path, which are geared to identify your core Passions. Don’t worry if yours are very different from what’s ‘popular’. Don’t worry about being judged. Take the time to answer truthfully and accurately.

If you do, you’ll be able to use the results as a powerful decision-making resource. If instead you let your answers be swayed by what others think, you’ll get results optimized for their tastes, not yours.

The Importance Of Science-Based Insights To Your Success In Life

Too many people rely on feedback they receive from others. No matter how spot-on the answers you received feel to you, they are subjective. We’re humans, and our subjective assessments are not always as accurate as we think.

Whenever possible, we want to collect objective information – based on statistically-significant data and procedures — on ourselves.

Objective data places a “reality check” over our subjective conclusions. When the two agree, you can feel really confident in your results. But when they contradict each other, it shows that you perhaps haven’t been understanding yourself as well as you thought you had. And that further self-exploration is needed to get to the true answer.

For example: ‘subjectively’ you might think of yourself as a talented singer (I mean, you sound great in the shower, right?). But if you enter a few competitions and repeatedly get scored in the bottom half, this ‘objective’ data indicates to you that either a lucrative singing career just isn’t in the cards for you, or that you at least need to invest in serious voice lessons before deciding to pursue one.

When it comes to ourselves, we all have blind spots. It’s the objective data that helps reveal them.

One of the best ways to get objective data about yourself is to take the few really excellent standardized assessment tests that have been developed over the past century.

The results of these have been honed over the millions of people that have taken them, and therefore, we can have confidence that — like the results or not — we can lean on the answers as more “true” than what our subjective minds may be telling us.

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